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Madness - $20
Tears and Healing - $24
In Love and Loving
It - or Not! - $14
Tears & Healing
Reflections - $24
Storm - $24
- Author and Publisher
Who is that masked man?
Like you probably are, I was just a person making my way through life until the
trauma of abuse shattered the small remaining pretense of a happy life. By training
I'm an engineer, and have 25 years experience working with computers, controls,
and chemical processes. I also hold a graduate certificate in sport psychology -
an interest I've yet to build into a vocation. But more important to you, I'm an
author, publisher, bookseller, and book promoter with a unique understanding of
abuse, the relationships that it haunts, and the diseases that cause it. My work
is entirely focused on helping those of us who are victims of abuse - mostly through
marriage - and have suffered abusive treatment from someone suffering with what
I call the abusive disorders: borderline, narcissistic, or antisocial personality
disorder (aka sociopathy.)
Over the last 10 plus years, I've become expert in understanding the familial experience
of these disorders. Since 2000, I've particpated in online support groups for those
living with a disordered person. By 2002, I had a busy website where I collected
my writings from my own experiences, and from helping others deal with theirs. For
a time, I ran a group of my own, which grew so fast it became unmanageable for me.
I published my first book, Tears and Healing,
in 2004. Two more followed shortly, filling the obvious need people had for help
with feelings of love (In Love and Loving It - or
Not!) and with understanding the crazy behavior they faced (Meaning
After many interactions with readers and consulting
clients, my perspectives have deepened. You'll find these, which include my
most insightful perspectives on these diseases and the experience of living with
them, is in Tears and Healing Reflections.
As clients continue to seek help with the challenging problem of divorcing a narcissist,
I've developed approaches that can help turn the energy of the disease toward
a settlement and away from contention and destruction. These are hardly foolproof,
but offer at least a chance of survival, and I've now published these in
Surviving the Storm.
Still, I too often found myself explaining something, then saying, "I haven't written
about that yet." From this came my comprehensive view of personality disorder and
The Hypervigilant Personality.
I also began offering consulting by telephone. This, above other input, has most
shaped my understanding not just of the experience of living with an abusive partner,
but the disease process that drives abusive people. It is these highly interactive
discussions that have forged my thinking about disease. My challenge in consulting
is to make sense of peoples' experiences. I have to offer a mechanism to
explain what is happening, and it has to work for the person I'm consulting with.
This has led me to a belief that most aggressive, abusive behavior comes from narcissism;
not borderline PD or sociopathy (antisocial PD). In fact, I believe that borderline
PD and narcissistic PD are actually caused by the same underlying psychological
dynamic: a fear of others finding fault. I believe that poor coping leads to behavior
we call borderline, while at other times this dynamic leads to building a more stable
defensive structure - one the disordered person protects viciously using abuse -
which we consider narcissistic. I believe that few victims of prolonged abuse are
actually victimized by sociopaths.
Occasionally, a book order is flung back at me with a dismissive, "I thought this
was written by a professional." Well, save the postage; I'm no professional. But
my insight is a lot more clear and complete than most mental health professionals
will ever achieve. Moreover, I make no pretense of treating anyone with a personality
disorder. My work is focused on helping those who live with these people, and it's
intensely practical and based in experience; not theories. There are lots of books
by people with PhD or even MSW after their names. But mine are among the most helpful
that many of my readers can find.
With that, I offer this list of education, experience, and qualifications:
- Founder of Dalkeith Press, Inc., a Pennsylvania corporation
- President and Publisher, Dalkeith Press, Inc.
- Author of 7 books:
- Personal Consultant in abusive relationships/familial experience of abusive personality
- Mentor to others in abusive relationships, in online support groups, 2000- present
- Designer and author of the Dalkeith Press web sites: tearsandhealing (now retired)
and this site http://dalkeithpress.com
- Designer and programmer of the Dalkeith Shopping cart pages
- Author and publisher of the Path to the Light and Tears and Healing web sites, 2001-2004
- Owner and moderator of the (now defunct) TearsandHealing support group 2004-2006
- Moderator of the
wtotransitions yahoo group, 2001-present
- Consulting Expert Witness and Patent Litigation Consultant, 2002 - present
- Engineering Consultant and Inventor, DuPont Engineering, 1982-2004
- Inventor of 17 US Patents, 1987-1995
- Basic Accredited Professional Figure Skater, 2004 - present
- Certified Engineer Intern, Delaware Association of Professional Engineers, 2007
- Master of Science in Chemical Engineering, Michigan State University, 1982
- Bachelor of Science in Biochemistry, Michigan State Univeristy, 1978
- Graduate Certificate in Sport Psychology, Capella University, 2004
I'm not a psychologist nor a licensed mental health care provider. I do not diagnose
or treat mental illness. The personal consulting I offer is a consultation with
someone with expertise, not treatment. I recommend everyone consulting with me should
take advantage of counseling or therapy from a professional caregiver.
Richard Skerritt is a pen name, not my real name. The first printings of Tears and
Healing were attributed to Richard, 21CP, a poorly chosen first pen name. The hardcover
edition still bears this. I've participated in online groups as Richard21CP,
famous phil (famous21centphil), and even before as Non-Guy (NG).
I see most of the email sent to me. I often can give short answers on subjects not
covered in my books. If you haven't read my books, don't send me questions on subjects
that are covered by them - I do not respond to these. I can be reached at this address:
combine my first and last name without spaces, the @ sign, and dalkeithpress.com.
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